the clothes may make the man, all a girl needs is a tan?

I was arguing (with love) with a friend of mine, who believes that if (SUPER condensed version) you consider yourself a feminist you need to prove it every day of your life; every thing you say, think, wear, do must reflect the struggle you and generations of women past endured for equal rights.

I absolutely consider myself a strong independent woman.  I went to a women's college... I know the history, I know the battles, I know the current problems and inequities, I know what aspects of being a woman will perhaps always be a struggle.

Where I am going with this... There are days where I just want to wear pencil skirts or pretty dresses and red lipstick and high heels.  I want to make like I am an extra on the set of Mad Men and perhaps twirl my hair a bit and dance through my day.   Above-mentioned-friend, groaned in mock disgust (hopefully mock!) at this statement.

Does this make me a hypocrite?  Does this discount my gender/make me any less of a power lady?  I don't think so...  I'm still successful, doing what I love, not taking crap from anyone etc.  I think if you like what you are wearing and how you are presenting yourself you are bound to be infinitely more successful (or at least have a better day).  My friend argued this was some sort of 'secretary mentality'.  Perhaps it is, but I think the difference is that I can't stand complacency in life/career choices?

Anyways, sick of writing. I would be curious to hear other opinions on this.